• Abortion Is Not A Dirty Word.

    Abortion is not a dirty word. Let’s get that out of the way first. The hushed whispers, the fear (real or imagined), is absolutely unnecessary. Abortions happen in Nigeria on a daily basis; illegal or not, unplanned pregnancies are getting aborted. Unfortunately, too many of those abortions are carried out in unsafe conditions by quacks. But get this, a large number of abortions are done by licensed medical professionals in private hospitals under the table because even though it’s illegal, private healthcare in Nigeria is about commerce. Doctors must eat; so for women who can afford to pay, an abortion doesn’t have to be unsafe. The illegal status this country…

  • I Bought Myself A Ring; and My Life Changed..

    If you have paid attention to the Nigerian news circle in the last few days, you must have seen the reports about the over 70 women that were accused of prostitution, abducted and then a number of them sexually assaulted by policemen in an illegal raid carried out in restaurants, bars and nightclubs in Abuja city center. As it is quite common in Nigeria’s largely discriminatory and gender biased culture, men were not arrested and women wearing wedding rings were freed because an outward ‘proof’ of being attached to a man can temporarily protect you from mob male assault. As a Nigerian woman who lives the experience everyday, being seen…

  • Youth for Technology Foundation’s 3D Africa hosts Silicon Lagoon In Lagos

      Youth for Technology Foundation’s 3D Africa will host Silicon Lagoon, a three-day economic mission organized by startups​.be and Close​ the Gap to Lagos, Nigeria. From March 21st​ and 23rd​,​ the Silicon Lagoon mission will enable participants to discover one of the most thriving tech ecosystems in the world, learn more about business opportunities in Africa, meet local business leaders, pitch to local and international investors, and network with entrepreneurs. During the mission, Youth for Technology Foundation 3D Africa students and team members will participate in hand-on activities such as co-creation workshops at CC Hub and NG_Hub, an interactive “Pow-Wow” at the Tony Elumelu Foundation, immersion sessions at local startups like LifeBank and Blackbit…

  • Oluwaseun Ayodeji Osowobi has been named Commonwealth Young Person of the Year.

    Ayodeji Osowobi has been  helping thousands of sexual and domestic abuse victims through Stand To End Rape. She was presented with the award by Commonwealth Secretary-General Patricia Scotland at Marlborough House, the Commonwealth Secretariat’s London headquarters. She also received a prize of £5,000, which she will use to expand her activities in Nigeria. Oluwaseun, herself a survivor of sexual violence, set up the Stand to End Rape Initiative (STER) to provide support to women, men and young people who have experienced any form of gender-based abuse. She said: “This award reminds me that when young people don’t look away in the face of injustice, and say ‘no’ to cultural biases,…

  • Wanting The Sadness To Go

    I have thought about how to put this into words and there’s no other word than this one phrase: “It hurts”. It hurts like an open wound. When I found out I was pregnant in the early weeks of this year, It was the happiest and the scariest day of my life. But I was proud of myself. I felt like I had finally achieved something worth being proud of. (this might not make sense to you but for me, being a mother has been something I had wanted and waited for, for a long time) I felt like everything was finally working out. I felt blessed and I couldn’t…

  • Can You Please Let Us Live? We’re Not Asking For Much

    When we talk about the rape culture in Nigeria and how the sexual assault of women is normalized, discussions become heated and victim blaming is rife. From being groped in the market to being groped at church, assaulted in public transport and raped in school, we can no longer deny that Nigerian women are not safe.

  • Monogamy Is Not Gendered!

    Too many Nigerian men live with the illusion and are quick to peddle the myth  that monogamy is a natural female trait. Majority of men think that women who have sexual partners out of their marital relationships or committed relationships do it either for money or because the man they’re with is not sexually satisfying. This narrative is not only quite flawed, it’s also been weaponized. It’s very difficult for men to see women as sexual beings and admit that the narrative that a woman’s feelings must be involved before she has sex is false. That  would mean Women have sex for the sake of having sex too.

  • #PressForProgress – Live Your Truth. No Permission Needed.

      I didn’t grow up thinking i was female. Sounds rather odd doesn’t it? Let me explain myself better.  I was a creative child and i discovered it early enough. I knew i could sing, write, talk a mouthful and be the center of attention in any group and i did all those naturally without thinking for a second about being a girl while doing them. Then Church happened.  And life happened. I was told you’re a girl, don’t be so outspoken You’re a girl, you shouldn’t always be in front You’re a girl, don’t be so loud You’re a girl, you shouldn’t want to be the leader   Women…

  • @ShonowoHospital Announces Free Fibroid Removal Surgeries!

    In Nigeria, women who are in their child bearing ages stand higher risk of developing fibroids. Fibroids are the most frequently seen tumors of the female reproductive system. Also known as uterine myomas, leiomyomas, or fibromas, fibroids are firm, compact tumors that are made of smooth muscle cells and fibrous connective tissue that develop in the uterus. It is estimated that between 20 to 50 percent of women of reproductive age have fibroids, although not all are diagnosed. It has been estimated that 1 in 4 Nigerian women develop one or more fibroids in her lifetime.

  • Get The Perfect Underwear From PantAffairs!

    The struggle to get the perfect bra that fit, is a struggle most of us women go through. So when we find that one bra that is comfortable,  supports, covers, holds and it super sexy,  we tend to wear the hell out of it. That favorite bra can take the much needed break now.  PantAffairs is here! You can contact PantAffairs for affordable yet quality bras and panties. I purchased two today and i didn’t want to take them off.  They are perfect! PantAffairs stock all sizes.  Big cup,  small cup,  plus size,  you’ll get your fit. CONTACT DETAILS Whatsapp  : 08153652956 Instagram : @pantaffairs Gmail : pantaffairs@gmail.com No calls…

  • Sunmbo Adeoye Presents: Inspiring Change Conference 5th Edition

    Women entrepreneurs, corporate and business executives,  and aspiring Boss Babes!  The Inspiring Change Conference is back! Queens, this is NOT a conference you can afford to miss. The inspiring change conference is designed to not Just motivate you to maximize your potential and fulfill your dreams, it is also designed to provide practical information and access to the tools and the mentorship you need to step out and build your future. Hosted by Sunmbo Adeoye of ESOB events, Women speakers from all sectors of the economy will be speaking and be available to answer your questions. The main Guest speaker for the day is Pastor Nike Adeyemi Of Daystar christian…

  • The Church Needs To Get Comfortable With Women’s Bodies

    If you grew up a church girl like i did, chances are you were taught (directly or indirectly) to be ashamed of your body and your sexuality. You were told women’s bodies and clothing can cause men to “stumble” with lust. You grew up believing it was your responsibility to keep men pure and the way to do this, is to keep your body hidden and unnoticeable as much as possible. If you were a teenager who filled up too fast, you were viewed with suspicion and consistently preached at about ‘fornication’. If you were an adult female with noticeable curves, your choice of clothing, will be constantly criticised and…

  • Validate Yourself First, So You’re Not Hungry For Crumbs.

    Validation is a powerful thing. I didn’t know how much, until i had suffered the effects of not getting enough and searching for it in all the wrong places. The need to be seen, acknowledged, valued and validated is human. That’s why when we don’t get it, we thirst and we yearn. I was in that place for so long. Needing other people to acknowledge me, admire me, express their value of me before i acknowledge, admire and value myself. You know what this does to you?  It makes you become co-dependent.  Codependency is characterized by a person belonging to a dysfunctional, one-sided relationship where one person relies on the…

  • The Nigerian Woman Gets No Justice

    The more i see a powerful media, political or Hollywood figure get fired over allegations of sexual misconduct, the sadder i become. Not sad that these men are getting ousted or facing the consequences of their vile actions, sad that Nigerian women cannot partake of this wave of justice sweeping across the united States. The Nigerian woman has no one to stand up for her. The law is not on her side and the court of public opinion is largely influenced by a culture of patriarchy and victim blaming.

  • Stop Telling Me To ‘Get Used To It’!

    There is no fancy way of saying this; i am sick and tired of being told to ‘get used to it’. When boys pull my hair on the playing ground and laugh at my embarrassment while they push me to the ground, don’t tell me to get used to it because after all, ‘boys are just being boys ‘. When boys stalk me on the way home after class in secondary school, catcalling and whistling, pointing and laughing at my pubescent body, don’t tell me to get used to it because ‘I’m a girl and i should be flattered because it means the boys like me’.