• Longsuffering. The Nigerian Man’s Definition Of A Good Woman

    LONGSUFFERING DEFINITION: “having or showing patience in spite of troubles, especially those caused by other people.” The Nigerian man’s definition of a good woman is the “longsuffering” woman. The one who will take every bullshit, tolerate bad behaviour, live with disrespect and disloyalty. The one who can be lied to and is guaranteed to not ask questions. The one who will labour and grow old and brittle, still labouring without compensation or acknowledgement, help, relief or appreciation because she’s been told it’s her duty to labour. It’s what is expected. The one who will endure verbal, emotional, psychological and even physical abuse because she’s been told a ‘a good woman’…

  • #GuestPost – Why I Am “Age Queer” By @NellyLaoni

    The term ‘queer’ is never really associated with age. It is now firmly placed within the LGBTQI+ community. It is a term associated with identity. I would like to acknowledge the controversy surrounding this new term “age queer” and I apologize should this be considered offensive, but I hope that I can appropriate this for good. According to an article on Bustle.com by Lindsay Denniger “queerness isn’t a trend, it’s a human being’s identity in the current socio-political climate”. I agree. Urban dictionary defines “age queer” as used to describe persons who feel that their chronological age does not fit into the persona they wish to present to the world…

  • I Became A Grown Woman In 2017

    2017 has been an incredible year. These two words describe the year for me: DISCOVERY FREEDOM I discovered there was more to who i believed i was. I discovered the reasons behind some life experiences, i discovered parts of me that i wasn’t aware of, i discovered truth. With discovery came freedom. In 2017, i broke free. I became free from lies i had believed for many years, i became free of societal expectations about what should make me happy, i became free to love myself, love others and be genuinely happy. I dropped my baggage in 2017. I dropped my pain, my anger,my insecurities and my fears. In 2017,…

  • The Seven Secrets Of A Confident Woman

      Secret #1 A confident woman knows that she is loved The first and most important secret to being a confident woman is to know that you are loved by God unconditionally. Romans 5:8 says, …God shows and clearly proves His [own] love for us by the fact that while we were still sinners, Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One) died for us. Even if your natural father did not really love you properly, you can still get the love and acceptance you missed in your childhood from God.