• Your Soulmate is not ‘out there’, you can stop looking now

    If I had one naira for every time I hear people talk about finding their soulmate, being with their soulmate or anything at all to do with their soulmate, I’ll be a rich woman indeed. If everyone supposedly has a soulmate; that one person we are destined to be with, you know, “the one”; what are the odds that you’ll ever find yours? According to healthcrackers, assuming your soulmate is set at birth, is roughly in the same age bracket, and the love is recognizable at first sight, mathematical estimates indicate that your chances of finding your soulmate is only 1 in 10,000 (0.010%). Let me break down why believing that you are destined to…

  • Questions For Your Mother..

    Sit down to an honest conversation with your mother. Ask her what living with your dad has been like over the years. Ask her what relationship with him felt like for her. Ask her if she ever had any regrets and what they were or are. Ask her if your father was or is everything she thought he would be. Ask her if she had to give up anything she wanted because she married your father. Ask what those things were. Ask her what her dreams and goals were when she was younger Bottom line, get to know your mother as a human being. Not just someone who took care…

  • Staying Free From Social Media Toxicity

    We all know how important it is to give our bodies a break from toxic substances. The word ‘toxic’ by itself scares us and warns us to stay away. And for the most part, we do because we love our health and we want to stay alive. So much has also been said about ‘toxic relationships and toxic friendships’ and how it’s important to identify them and avoid them for our mental health and emotional well-being. We read those articles and probably hear those TED talks and sermons but we still expose ourselves to toxicity every day. How? Through our social media feeds. The rise and popularity of social media…

  • Emotional Abuse; Spot The Signs & Run!

    So many women (and men) are in emotionally abusive relationships and they don’t even realize it. So many don’t know because they don’t realize the implications of what is being done to them. Emotional abuse leaves deeper scars than physical abuse. because your mind is attacked. In almost all cases of physical abuse, emotional abuse usually starts long before the physical assaults. In case you have not been paying attention, here are some signs of an emotionally abusive relationship. I’m addressing women here but it also applies to men too. So, read with understanding..

  • There’s No Such Thing As a Soul Mate!

    The philosophy of a “soul mate” has done far more harm than good in our society. First and foremost, it’s a concept that is rooted in ancient mythology. Story has it that the gods split human beings as a form of punishment for their pride. Since then, human beings have been on the search to find their “soul mate” in an attempt to reach completion once again. Ancient mythology declares that there is this unspoken knowledge—some sort of feeling a person experiences when they come face to face with their soul mate. It’s the idea that we’re half-full people waiting around for someone else to complete us. I don’t know…