• I’m Snatching My Life Back

    Long time no read. While I can’t say my long absence has been deliberate, it turned out it was needed. I couldn’t help it anyway. Have you ever felt so overwhelmed with life in general? like things were happening so fast you couldn’t keep up? That’s what the past month or so, have felt like for me. As you know, I left my old job before Christmas and I moved into a new role somewhere else, less than a week later. It has been a roller coaster ever since. I have been physically, mentally and emotionally tired but I am on the good road to recovery. I have received good…

  • 34 And Gratefully Counting…

    I had been dreading this day for some weeks now.  I used to look forward to the 21st July of every year because it’s my birthday and it’s always been special. But somehow, this year’s birthday didn’t really fill me with excitement.  I dreaded the happy wishes, the phone calls, the ‘joyful’ responses I’ll have to muster to respond to the myraid of Social Media well wishers, the smiles I’ll have to give as co workers wish me a happy birthday… Thinking about it alone got me exhausted. Why wasn’t i excited about my birthday? Maybe because this year and the previous one has been a tough one physically and…

  • I Am Tired.

    This is not an inspirational post. it’s not meant to be. frankly speaking, i don’t even know what it’s supposed to be. I haven’t written anything here in a while and i miss that. I miss you reading and in a way, i miss me. i miss the me that writes. I haven’t been in the right head space for some time and I’ve tried to find a name or description for how I’m feeling and the one word i could come up with, is ‘tired’. I’m tired of the hustle and bustle of daily living. I’m tired of answering questions, smiling and laughing and shaking hands and having conversations…

  • He Chose Me! Can You Believe That?!

    “You were in a faraway country, but I reached out to you. I called you from that faraway place. I said, ‘You are my servant.’ I chose you, and I have not rejected you. ” – Isaiah 41:9 ERV This verse is the story of my life. For so long i didn’t know though and even now, i sometimes need reminders. These days, i find myself marvelling at how God could take an obscure small town girl raised by an average single parent, insecure, hurt, broken and abused, put all that together and create something and someone beautiful and extraordinary.

  • Sexual Assault In Church. Are We Going To Talk About It?

    When are we going to have an open and honest conversation about sexual harassment and assault in Nigerian churches? How long are we going to push it away, cover it up and pretend it never happens? 2017 was the year we debated the previously untouchable subject of tithing. When are we going to rip off the shroud of silence around sexual assault and victim blaming that exists in Nigeria’s religious circles? Could it be because our society in general still doesn’t give victims a voice, still shields perpetrators and dehumanize victims? Could it be because there hardly is any justice? Could it be because Pastors in Nigeria have such a…

  • I Became A Grown Woman In 2017

    2017 has been an incredible year. These two words describe the year for me: DISCOVERY FREEDOM I discovered there was more to who i believed i was. I discovered the reasons behind some life experiences, i discovered parts of me that i wasn’t aware of, i discovered truth. With discovery came freedom. In 2017, i broke free. I became free from lies i had believed for many years, i became free of societal expectations about what should make me happy, i became free to love myself, love others and be genuinely happy. I dropped my baggage in 2017. I dropped my pain, my anger,my insecurities and my fears. In 2017,…

  • I’m So Sorry. #MeToo.

    The first time i was sexually assaulted, i was 9 years old. Playing with a toy on the stairs leading to my mother’s shop. I remember him come up the stairs and rather than go on into the shop, he bent down to say hi to me. But he didn’t just say hi. I remember his hands moving into my dress as he kept asking me what I was doing on the stairs. I remember the glazed look on his face. his weirdly fixed smile as his hands assaulted me while i hurt. The sound of someone coming finally made him stop. The seeds of self loathing were sown that…

  • My Very First Fathers Day!

    I never liked fathers day. Not because I didn’t like fathers, but because every celebration of fathers day reminded me of the void in me that I’ve always tried to fill. It reminded me of the relationship i wish I had. Today is different though. For the very first time I really am celebrating fathers day. I’m celebrating my father without any wishful thinking or void in my heart because I have finally accepted the truth that I have always had a dad. I’ve been going through life listening to the devil’s lies that I have no father looking out for me. I lived all 32 years of my life…

  • I Didn’t Know What Love Looked Like…

    I didn’t know what a good man is supposed to look like or treat me because I didn’t have a dad to show me who a good man is. I grew up hearing stories about how my dad got my mum pregnant and left. So my earliest impressions of men were that they were not to be trusted. They’ll always leave. The more I heard tales about my rejection, heard tales of how my mother struggled to raise me alone as a single broke mom, heard how my grandmother had to take me from her to save us from starving, the more inferior and unloved I felt. I believed something…

  • Re-Fixing Your Focus..

    The feeling of loss is not a good feeling; loss of a job, a loved one or a prized possession. Sometimes we mourn that which we have lost with so much energy and passion; especially after we seemed to have done all that is in our power to do to prevent it from happening. From intense pain to grief to numbness, and sometimes even resentment, we feel it all. But we don’t heal as long as we continue to focus on what has been lost. There is a time and season for everything. Recognise when it’s time to move to a new season; A season of healing and rest. This…

  • BE ENCOURAGED…..

    How are you doing today? I feel so strongly that i should encourage you this morning, that whatever you might be going through this moment, this season, DO NOT FEAR. YOU WILL COME OUT FINE! In whatever situation you find yourself, DO NOT LOSE YOURSELF. Always be conscious of who you are and whose you are. You are the beloved of God You are the apple of God’s eyes You  matter to God You are Important You are beautiful You are Lovable You have been blessed and gifted You deserve love and every good thing God does not make mistakes. You are NOT a mistake. Your life is not a…

  • #TheFavoredWoman Presents; IdentiFIGHT!

    Few days ago, i shared a little bit about growing up insecure and all the baggage that comes with it.  I talked about wanting to sit down with you and not just talk about it, but offer help, encouragement, motivation and prayer for anyone who might be going through the same thing. Our insecurity is from how we emotionally think about ourselves, sometimes rooted in how we were raised, our life experiences and some of the words spoken over us as we grew up.  Some of us have had our self-esteem battered over the years and we don’t even know how much this is affecting our everyday life Insecurity and…

  • INTRODUCING: ‘IdentiFIGHT’ – The Fight For The Real You!

    Once upon a time, I didn’t like myself very much. I didn’t like how I looked, I didn’t think I was particularly bright (most likely because I grew up being told I was stupid) I was a sensitive and an emotional child and the many negative comments thrown at me affected me deeply. Growing up in a single parent household, I was a rebellious teenager with identity crisis and self-worth issues.  At a young age, I became a people pleaser who will go to great lengths for other people just to be liked and be accepted. Let’s just say that emotionally, I was a wreck and while this followed me…

  • NEW PHOTOS: About Living Life Deliberately…

    No it’s not my birthday yet and Lord knows i don’t particularly feel like it is right now but what i do know is  that, it’s a great season of my life right now. God has been right here with me, walking me through the roller coaster of growing, making mistakes, learning how to love and how to be the truly favored woman he named me.  I have been far from perfect. I have hurt people and i have been hurt by people, but through it all, i am learning to live my life deliberately. So that’s what this shoot is really about. Living life with intention. Clothes Designed and…

  • Embracing The Journey Of Growing Older…

    The Older i get, the more i realize i no longer want a lot of things i thought i wanted. I’ll call myself a late bloomer; It took me a while to really find myself and be friends with myself. The older i get, the more i become comfortable with the woman i am and the more i embrace and anticipate the woman i’m becoming. The older i get, the more self-aware i become. I am confident to say what i want, i make choices with certainty, i love without fear, and i work towards my purpose with clarity. I’ll turn thirty-three in July and i am looking forward to…