• I Didn’t Make Science Class; But I’m Here & I’m Winning!

    When I was growing up and in secondary school, it was not ‘cool’ to want to study anything outside medicine, law, engineering or accounting. Subjects like literature and history, were seen to be cheap and a cop out of ‘serious’ subjects like physics and chemistry and mathematics. Students like me were not particularly seen as smart because we were not in ‘science class’. To be in science class was to be in an elite group of ‘intelligent students’. The ones who will gain admissions to university. It was a thing parents even bragged with. “Tolu is in science class. He’s going to study medicine.” Being put in ‘arts class’ was…

  • Can I Be Happy Now?

    I recently just checked out Google’s definition of “Happy”. Apparently it’s ‘feeling or showing pleasure or contentment.’ Interesting. I checked because I have been wondering if I’m really happy or if I’m as happy as I should be or if I should be happy at all. I’ve been thinking … Who determines what should make me happy ? Who measures the degree of my happiness and sets the level it should be? At what stage of life am I ‘allowed’ to be happy ? Can I choose to be happy now even when I haven’t met all the criteria that determines happiness ? Can I feel or show pleasure and…

  • Being Kind To Me..

    KINDNESS:  Defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. Synonyms: goodwill, affection, warmth, gentleness, tenderness, concern, care; consideration, thoughtfulness, unselfishness, altruism, compassion, sympathy, understanding, etc Someone twitted recently and said; “be kind to yourself”.  Simple statement but it got me thinking. How do I treat me ? I recently learned that the way I treat myself , the decisions and choices I make are oftentimes a reaction from what I think about me.  How I allow others to treat me is a reflection of how I feel about me. Years of internalizing thoughts of unworthiness , insecurity and pain had damaged so much but the recovery process has been amazing.  Now I’m conscious of what I’m constantly thinking about myself. Like a…

  • I Am Tired.

    This is not an inspirational post. it’s not meant to be. frankly speaking, i don’t even know what it’s supposed to be. I haven’t written anything here in a while and i miss that. I miss you reading and in a way, i miss me. i miss the me that writes. I haven’t been in the right head space for some time and I’ve tried to find a name or description for how I’m feeling and the one word i could come up with, is ‘tired’. I’m tired of the hustle and bustle of daily living. I’m tired of answering questions, smiling and laughing and shaking hands and having conversations…

  • Sexual Assault In Church. Are We Going To Talk About It?

    When are we going to have an open and honest conversation about sexual harassment and assault in Nigerian churches? How long are we going to push it away, cover it up and pretend it never happens? 2017 was the year we debated the previously untouchable subject of tithing. When are we going to rip off the shroud of silence around sexual assault and victim blaming that exists in Nigeria’s religious circles? Could it be because our society in general still doesn’t give victims a voice, still shields perpetrators and dehumanize victims? Could it be because there hardly is any justice? Could it be because Pastors in Nigeria have such a…

  • Winning From The Inside Out

    This year is about living purposefully and deliberately. It’s about seeing too. Because everything in the universe might conspire to block your vision from seeing beyond what’s happening right in front of you. But if you look into your spirit, what do you see? God has just reminded me that every project I’ve ever done that has been successful, I had seen the complete picture in my mind before I even wrote down the idea. So in moments of doubt, I look inside. What do I see? I have the mind of Christ the spirit tells me. My mind connects with the spirit and shows me a picture. And then…

  • Scared Of Being Obscure

    Obscurity: The state of being unknown or inconspicuous. Can also mean anonymity, lack of fame/renown/honor/recognition. Sounds like a scary word isn’t it? Doesn’t sound positive. definitely not a word we want associated with us. We live in a world where being ‘unknown’ can be synonymous with being ‘unimportant’. Social media has opened doors to previously unbelievable levels of instant fame and popularity. Motivational speakers and coaches encourage us to ‘put ourselves out there’. Even when we are preached at, to ‘let our light shine’, we are hardly ever told that there’s a thin line between letting your light shine for the glory of the father and playing for the gallery.

  • Please Help Me Remember….

    Dear God, Please help me remember how good you’ve been to me. help me remember how you’ve come through for me when I was helpless and needed you. Help me remember that I don’t need to help you do anything. Help me remember that all I need to do is trust you and take you at your word Help me remember that my relationship with you is more important than any other thing I want from you Help me remember that you know what is good for me and you’ll never leave me hanging Help me remember that your plans for me ARE ALWAYS GOOD Help me remember your unconditional…

  • My Name Is ‘Christian’.

    Unapologetically Christian. That’s who I am. I am a Christian because I have met You Lord and experienced your grace, your mercy and your unconditional love. I have experienced what it is to be rescued from certain death and brought back to life. I have experienced being given a purpose and a reason for experience at a time when my life was empty and I was living in a shell. But I am here Lord. You saved me. You cleaned me up. You gave me a platform, put me on a pedestal that I couldn’t have climbed by myself. You gave me a name, you gave me an identity. My…

  • Connect Not Emotionally “Attach”

    Do you ever meet people you’re drawn to help in some way? I’m not talking about doing the little you can when they ask you for help. I’m talking about connecting on such a deeper level that you feel their pain, you are elated at their success and you’re down at their disappointments. I believe that some of us connect this way to some people’s needs because it’s a calling and a divine assignment. We’re destiny helpers. God sends us to his kids and we do what we’re called to do and move on to the next one. We however do need to be very careful how we handle our…

  • About My Crush & Imaginary Date…

    Let me start by saying that there are no “deep spiritual lessons” that I want to share in this post. I just wanted to tell you about something that happened to me. Anyway, last year I saw a man and admired him from a distance. I observed the ease at which he went about his business, his obvious skill set and the intelligence that couldn’t help but show as he did what he did. All these I noticed and liked. But I had no conversation with him despite the fact that I was quite attracted. He had this “air” around him that was enigmatic and that piqued my interest.

  • I Got Tired Of My Own Blog Posts….

    I have decided to stop writing fluffy religious articles. That’s why I haven’t been writing anything for some time. Oh don’t be alarmed, I am still very much interested in sharing my faith. But I have since realized that more often than not, sharing my life experiences and day to day challenges and journey with God encourages others more than pushing scriptures down people’s throats. Not that it’s wrong to quote scriptures, it’s just that I want to relate with you more. I want you to realize that I go through the same things you do. I stumble, sometimes I fall, I think the wrong thoughts, say the wrong things…

  • Prayers; Don’t Need No Drama…

    Because of our upbringing, a lot of us believe we need to make long complicated and Righteous sounding sentences that God will approve when we pray. Some of us even believe that if God is not impressed, he won’t answer. So we ‘pray’ using chistianese clichés, repetitive words, and we sometimes even say stuff that means nothing us. Another group of people is those who want to make sure that others are impressed with their spirituality and Bible knowledge when they are asked to pray.

  • What I Want The Most.

    Do you know it’s possible to stray from God without even realizing that you have strayed? I’m not talking about straight out backsliding into sin and decadence, but the gradual subtle leading of our desires from the basic “seek ye first…” We do Christian things, go to church, write Christian articles, teach a bible class, sing in the choir but our attention is diverted by those things we do. So we are overwhelmed with thoughts of success in those things, we want to do it perfectly; we are so set on working the gift that the giver of the gift is forgotten.

  • Give Love… Get Loved In Return….

    It’s amazing how we can preach a biblical principle and hardly experience it ourselves. And when we finally do, our minds are blown away to epic proportions. So for a while i have been learning about loving on other people and living outside of myself. It’s not an easy lesson i tell you. especially for someone whose life has always revolved around what works for her. But somehow, God kept me on track and drags me back on course when i stray.