• I Didn’t Make Science Class; But I’m Here & I’m Winning!

    When I was growing up and in secondary school, it was not ‘cool’ to want to study anything outside medicine, law, engineering or accounting. Subjects like literature and history, were seen to be cheap and a cop out of ‘serious’ subjects like physics and chemistry and mathematics. Students like me were not particularly seen as smart because we were not in ‘science class’. To be in science class was to be in an elite group of ‘intelligent students’. The ones who will gain admissions to university. It was a thing parents even bragged with. “Tolu is in science class. He’s going to study medicine.” Being put in ‘arts class’ was…

  • Can I Be Happy Now?

    I recently just checked out Google’s definition of “Happy”. Apparently it’s ‘feeling or showing pleasure or contentment.’ Interesting. I checked because I have been wondering if I’m really happy or if I’m as happy as I should be or if I should be happy at all. I’ve been thinking … Who determines what should make me happy ? Who measures the degree of my happiness and sets the level it should be? At what stage of life am I ‘allowed’ to be happy ? Can I choose to be happy now even when I haven’t met all the criteria that determines happiness ? Can I feel or show pleasure and…

  • I Am Tired.

    This is not an inspirational post. it’s not meant to be. frankly speaking, i don’t even know what it’s supposed to be. I haven’t written anything here in a while and i miss that. I miss you reading and in a way, i miss me. i miss the me that writes. I haven’t been in the right head space for some time and I’ve tried to find a name or description for how I’m feeling and the one word i could come up with, is ‘tired’. I’m tired of the hustle and bustle of daily living. I’m tired of answering questions, smiling and laughing and shaking hands and having conversations…

  • Sexual Assault In Church. Are We Going To Talk About It?

    When are we going to have an open and honest conversation about sexual harassment and assault in Nigerian churches? How long are we going to push it away, cover it up and pretend it never happens? 2017 was the year we debated the previously untouchable subject of tithing. When are we going to rip off the shroud of silence around sexual assault and victim blaming that exists in Nigeria’s religious circles? Could it be because our society in general still doesn’t give victims a voice, still shields perpetrators and dehumanize victims? Could it be because there hardly is any justice? Could it be because Pastors in Nigeria have such a…