• Wanting The Sadness To Go

    I have thought about how to put this into words and there’s no other word than this one phrase: “It hurts”. It hurts like an open wound. When I found out I was pregnant in the early weeks of this year, It was the happiest and the scariest day of my life. But I was proud of myself. I felt like I had finally achieved something worth being proud of. (this might not make sense to you but for me, being a mother has been something I had wanted and waited for, for a long time) I felt like everything was finally working out. I felt blessed and I couldn’t…

  • Intimidation Is Nigerian.

    “Do you know who I am?” If you’re Nigerian, you’ve probably said this to someone or someone has said it to you at some point. Meant to intimidate, to silence and to generate deference to whatever unsavory and/or illegal act from the maker of the statement. That is the language of the Nigerian. Intimidation. We speak it, we understand it, we use it, we do not question it until we become the victims. And then, we turn around and do it to the next person. the bullied becoming the bully. We do it to each other. Someone owes you money and you pay a couple of policemen to arrest your…

  • I’m Snatching My Life Back

    Long time no read. While I can’t say my long absence has been deliberate, it turned out it was needed. I couldn’t help it anyway. Have you ever felt so overwhelmed with life in general? like things were happening so fast you couldn’t keep up? That’s what the past month or so, have felt like for me. As you know, I left my old job before Christmas and I moved into a new role somewhere else, less than a week later. It has been a roller coaster ever since. I have been physically, mentally and emotionally tired but I am on the good road to recovery. I have received good…

  • Big Potato or Small Potato?

    Potatoes come in different sizes, and sorting them could take several hours resulting in lots of work for farmers during harvest season, however, I read about a certain farmer who used a different approach. After harvesting the potatoes, the farmer would simply load them all on a truck and then take the roughest road to the market. Due to the bad state of the road, it was filled with lots of bumps, holes, and the entire journey itself wasn’t a pleasant one. Something however took place during that process. The small potatoes would fall to the bottom of the truck, while the big ones would rise to the top. No…

  • Find Your Community & CONNECT!

    Behavioural scientists say humans are by nature social creatures. We connect with other humans emotionally and we seek out physical connections that appeal to us emotionally. As it is true in behavioural science, so is it true in our lives as spiritual  beings too. In actual fact, i believe this desire for connection originates from our spirit because Man is spirit first. We cannot do life alone. we are not wired that way. In our walk with God, we will sometimes need a hand to hold as we walk through some difficult learning moments, we will need the support  of a community, and the companionship and fellowship of friends and…

  • Mistakes And Miracles…..

    Mistakes they say, is all part of being human. As long as we remain alive on this earth, we will do some things in error, say some things in error, make erroneous judgement and decisions sometimes and it’s all part of the imperfect human experience. There are times your mistakes threaten to overwhelm you. You feel you’ve done that one thing and there’s no coming back. you’ve blown it this time and there’s no fixing it. You’re wrong.  Humans make mistakes, God does not.

  • I Bought Myself A Pretty Dress….

    I walked into a store today and bought a really nice dress. It might come across as a little strange that I would make a point of writing about this, but trust me; it’s absolutely important. If you work hard and have loads of responsibilities and family obligations, you might have found yourself in a place where you have forgotten about you because you’re so busy taking care of everyone else. You might be saving hard for a future dream, building a business or just getting bills paid. I understand that in the present day Nigerian economy, most of us have had to make adjustments but I also know that…

  • It’s Okay To NOT Talk About Your #2017Goals

    It’s become a thing now. To share our thoughts, plans, resolutions and intentions for the new year. Facebook, twitter, offline conversations with friends, everyone is sharing their goals and plans for the new year. I just want to let you know that you don’t have to be under pressure to share too. If you haven’t figured out what you’re going to do in the new year, it’s OK. You and God can work that out and when you do, it’s okay if you want to keep it between yourself and him. Actually, from experience, i can safely tell you that a lot of people do more talking than doing. It…

  • They’re Nasty To You? Don’t Avoid Them. They’re Useful!

    The fact that someone hurt you, doesn’t mean they were never supposed to be in your life. Sometimes, we need to experience life, work, school, relationship with certain people so that we can learn not just how to handle difficulty, but so we can get to know ourselves better. There are people that have been placed on your path through life that will open up your deepest fears, insecurities and expose your carefully airbrushed rough edges. You need those people.

  • That Opportunity You Lost? It’s On You!

    I have watched young people squander opportunities. Opportunities that other less-fortunate or less-connected young ones pray, hustle, wish and would do anything for. I must say it hurts. It hurts like salt on a raw wound because i am a product of several opportunities myself. I was a nameless, stay-in-the-background, unnoticed intern when someone at NTA (Nigerian Television Authority) Kaduna looked at me and offered me a spot to try out in front of the camera. It was a dream i never thought would come true.

  • You Might Be Distracting Yourself…

    Sometimes, distractions from purpose do not come from outside or external factors; they come from within you. Indeed it is possible to distract yourself from your mission and purpose while you’re busy doing activities around that same purpose. Confused? Don’t be. Activities can be deceptive. It keeps us busy. It makes us look busy. But a lot of times, we are running around in circles, wearing ourselves out trying to do things that God has already sorted out if only we paid closer attention to our inner communication with God and follow his leading.

  • Peace Is Not Neccesarily The Absence Of Chaos

    When you realize that the story of your life is authored by God himself, you will be at peace. You will be at peace with yourself, peace with your environment and peace with God. Lately, I have been learning about God’s peace. I have read it countless times in Apostle Paul’s letter to the Philippians, that we can experience a kind of peace that is beyond  human understanding but it is one thing to read about an experience, it is another thing to live that experience. I understand that the peace of God is not necessarily the absence of chaos and trouble. The peace of God is a deep understanding…

  • Lessons About Living Or Not Living For Myself…

    I’ve been living for myself recently. Trying so hard to do things & position myself in places that benefit only me. No wonder I’ve been disillusioned, tired & worried. I asked a friend to pray for me. God answered by showing me this: 2 Corinthians 5:15 (NLT) “He died for everyone so that those who receive his new life will no longer live for themselves. Instead, they will live for Christ, who died and was raised for them.” He then pointed out what I’ve been doing wrong and how my motives had become affected. That shift is so subtle you don’t even notice. You might still be doing good things…

  • Own Your Issues….

    Recently, I have watched myself grow as an individual, mentally and emotionally and I am excited to observe the change that is happening to me. There are lot of factors contributing to this growth but one of the major reasons is because I learned how to own my issues. It has taken me a while to get here. To acknowledge the issues and the baggage I have and take responsibility for the actions and decisions I have taken as a result of those internal issues. I grew up as an emotionally complex female with daddy issues, a barrage of insecurities, self-esteem issues and a severe hunger for acceptance and affection.…

  • You Cannot Force Growth..

    I have learnt that people will grow at their own pace and mature in their own time. You have to let people go through their own process. Your Christianity cannot be projected on someone else. Your salvation is personal to you. It won’t save your spouse, your kids or your friend. As much as you desire for them to mature in faith, be strong or probably make lifestyle changes, you cannot impose your faith on them. You can only pray for them, love them, teach them if you’re in a position to, and be there when they need you. Otherwise, you leave them be.