• Doreen On Loving Yourself: “Let honesty be a kind teacher & not a cruel one”

    It’s a lot easier to love yourself when you like yourself; When you like who you are & how you are. One of the greatest ways to start liking yourself if you already don’t, is to begin with honesty. There is such an appreciation you experience when you come clean to yourself. It may be a little awkward at first being that honest with yourself, but the more you are, the more you begin to see the importance in saying out loud your fears, hearing them sound so very human, which helps you realize the work you have to do. Don’t ignore doing the work. Doing the work on yourself…

  • GUEST POST: I Am Every Woman – By @NellyLaoni

    In 1978, Chaka Khan debuted her first solo album ‘Chaka’, it included her major hit as solo artiste ‘I’m every woman’. It was later introduced to a much younger audience by Whitney Houston in 1992. The lyrics simply states that “every woman” is a man’s dream. She can do anything, feed him, have great sex with him, soothe his fears and protect him from danger. She affirms all of these without bragging because she’s confident in her magic. According to Chaka and Whitney, the “every woman” is a cook, courtesan, nurse, shaman and mother. This was nothing new. These women did not invent this ideal. They are only passing down…

  • #GuestPost – Why I Am “Age Queer” By @NellyLaoni

    The term ‘queer’ is never really associated with age. It is now firmly placed within the LGBTQI+ community. It is a term associated with identity. I would like to acknowledge the controversy surrounding this new term “age queer” and I apologize should this be considered offensive, but I hope that I can appropriate this for good. According to an article on Bustle.com by Lindsay Denniger “queerness isn’t a trend, it’s a human being’s identity in the current socio-political climate”. I agree. Urban dictionary defines “age queer” as used to describe persons who feel that their chronological age does not fit into the persona they wish to present to the world…

  • Is The Bible Really Infallible?

    Once you relinquish conviction that the Bible is *literally* God’s word, faith becomes a messier affair. It’s easier to simply believe that the Bible is a plain record of the divine, that it clearly and concisely states what Christians should believe. In a world that feels so chaotic, biblical infallibility can provide distinct comfort. But comfort and truth aren’t synonymous. The truth is that the biblical books were written by humans. They represent the fruits of people grappling with God, and what it means to be human, for centuries—in all the complexity those questions necessarily entail.

  • #GuestPost – Neglecting The Boy Endangers The Girl

    Before he was a rapist, woman beater, misogynist, patriarchy maniac, and the thing that keeps you awake at night, he was an innocent child. Born with no hate or disregard for women. There is no way he brought such evil from heaven. What happened? He was neglected and uneducated. Neglected by his parents, uncles, church, aunties and all the good institutions of the society responsible for nurturing him. They tell him to go find his way because he is a man. I never paid much or any attention to the international day of the girl child until last year. Women have had enough and were making a lot of justified noise on…

  • A Story About Time – By Eketi Edima Ette (@eketiette)

    Are you one of those people who’s looked back on 2017 and convinced yourself that you haven’t achieved anything? Worried about catching up with your mates who seem to have done much better? Let me tell you a story about time. A long time ago, back when I was about twelve or thirteen years old, my parents traveled to Uyo.  Before leaving, my mother asked me to prepare Edikang ikong soup so she and my father would eat when they returned. As soon as they were out the door, I commandeered my siblings to prepare all the soup ingredients, cover them up and leave them on the kitchen table.

  • A Truly Heart Breaking Mother’s Day Story…

    When I was 5 years of age, I watched my mother get beat down by my father. It happened on multiple occasions, and one time I remember him beating her unconscious. I guess the beating was so bad that when she woke up, and stood back on her feet, she stumbled again and fell to the floor once again losing consciousness. Before she fell to the floor, she told my aunts who were there, “Get my son out of here.” as her voice trembled, her eyes shed tears, and finally she hit the floor. I got scared, and instead of my aunts running to take me out of the room,…

  • The Church & Money Today… (Part 1)

    (As written by Lanre Afolayan) This topic is a grey area within the church today which often times generates a lot of controversy among church folks. Many people that concur to this line of thought are neither bold nor courageous to discuss it publicly because of the backlash it would receive. We however can not be mute or timid on matters that are crucial to God and to our faith simply because we don’t want to be persecuted. There is a priority of the Kingdom of God that we must begin to shove into our hearts even as Christians, which is the soul of man in eternity.

  • October 13th. Two Years Ago, I Tried To Kill Myself….

    I have shared about my personal struggle with depression on this blog before and one day i will probably share about how God healed me of BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). It’s a battle i don’t pray for anyone to have to fight. When I got this email from one of my blog readers, who is also a radio listener, i felt an emotion so great that a sob rose in my throat. The interesting thing is i had met her before and if she hadn’t shared her story i would never have guessed she’d gone through so much. At the end of the day, this just reminds me that we are…