• This Thing About Forgiveness..

    Forgiveness cannot be forced. You can’t coerce or guilt people into forgiving. We all deal with pain differently and take time to process differently. I don’t advice people, preach or worse, guilt trip people with religious quotes into forgiving those who have wronged them. I used to do that. But not anymore. Why? Because I hate it when it’s done to me, and truth is, it doesn’t work. One more thing we need to understand about forgiveness is, choosing to let go of the pain doesn’t mean wanting to go back to the way things were. Some relationships are not meant to be repaired. Family, friends, lovers, whatever you were…

  • Forgiveness + Kindness + Understanding + Love = GRACE

          Forgiveness, Kindness , Understanding , Love . How often do we use those words without necessarily thinking they mean more than they actually do? How often do we ask for those from people we care about? When we sin against God, we want forgiveness don’t we?  When we need some favor, we want to be met with kindness from the person we need it from. When we don’t meet expectations, we will love to be understood and to experience the restfulness that being met with understanding gives us, right? And of course, who doesn’t need to be loved?

  • Over One Year Of Living Celibate And Still Counting…..

    I never thought a day will come that I will put this down in black and white, but here I am, spilling the beans! December 2012, I ended a rather stormy and ungodly engagement at a time of my life when confusion reigned as king. You see, I’ve lived most of my young-adult life as a Christian in name and in appearance only.

  • Can We Really Forgive and Forget?

      “Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as revenge, with an increased ability to wish the offender well”. At least, that’s what Wikipedia says.