• Abortion Is Not A Dirty Word.

    Abortion is not a dirty word. Let’s get that out of the way first. The hushed whispers, the fear (real or imagined), is absolutely unnecessary. Abortions happen in Nigeria on a daily basis; illegal or not, unplanned pregnancies are getting aborted. Unfortunately, too many of those abortions are carried out in unsafe conditions by quacks. But get this, a large number of abortions are done by licensed medical professionals in private hospitals under the table because even though it’s illegal, private healthcare in Nigeria is about commerce. Doctors must eat; so for women who can afford to pay, an abortion doesn’t have to be unsafe. The illegal status this country…

  • Oluwaseun Ayodeji Osowobi has been named Commonwealth Young Person of the Year.

    Ayodeji Osowobi has been  helping thousands of sexual and domestic abuse victims through Stand To End Rape. She was presented with the award by Commonwealth Secretary-General Patricia Scotland at Marlborough House, the Commonwealth Secretariat’s London headquarters. She also received a prize of £5,000, which she will use to expand her activities in Nigeria. Oluwaseun, herself a survivor of sexual violence, set up the Stand to End Rape Initiative (STER) to provide support to women, men and young people who have experienced any form of gender-based abuse. She said: “This award reminds me that when young people don’t look away in the face of injustice, and say ‘no’ to cultural biases,…

  • GUEST POST: I Am Every Woman – By @NellyLaoni

    In 1978, Chaka Khan debuted her first solo album ‘Chaka’, it included her major hit as solo artiste ‘I’m every woman’. It was later introduced to a much younger audience by Whitney Houston in 1992. The lyrics simply states that “every woman” is a man’s dream. She can do anything, feed him, have great sex with him, soothe his fears and protect him from danger. She affirms all of these without bragging because she’s confident in her magic. According to Chaka and Whitney, the “every woman” is a cook, courtesan, nurse, shaman and mother. This was nothing new. These women did not invent this ideal. They are only passing down…

  • International Day Of The Girl Child Conference – By @HaceyHealth

    Every year, the United Nations International Day of Girls raises awareness on challenges peculiar to the girl child and advocates for her rights to gender equality. This year, HACEY Health Initiative will be holding the largest conference on the Girl Child in Nigeria to commemorate this event. The United Nation International Day of Girls held every 11th of October is aimed at promoting the rights of the girl child and advocating for her rights to gender equality.

  • #GuestPost – Neglecting The Boy Endangers The Girl

    Before he was a rapist, woman beater, misogynist, patriarchy maniac, and the thing that keeps you awake at night, he was an innocent child. Born with no hate or disregard for women. There is no way he brought such evil from heaven. What happened? He was neglected and uneducated. Neglected by his parents, uncles, church, aunties and all the good institutions of the society responsible for nurturing him. They tell him to go find his way because he is a man. I never paid much or any attention to the international day of the girl child until last year. Women have had enough and were making a lot of justified noise on…

  • GUEST POST: Women Are Like God! By @Ms_Affy

    Women were created to assist God in creation.  They were hand crafted by God to perform specific functions pertaining to them and cannot be compared in any way to the compared to the masculine gender because they were also designed by God to perform uniquely as well. Women exist because of who they are (identity) and what they were created to do on earth (significance). They were designed to ‘birth’- bring people into existence and that’s what creation simply means strictusensu.

  • The Nigerian Woman Gets No Justice

    The more i see a powerful media, political or Hollywood figure get fired over allegations of sexual misconduct, the sadder i become. Not sad that these men are getting ousted or facing the consequences of their vile actions, sad that Nigerian women cannot partake of this wave of justice sweeping across the united States. The Nigerian woman has no one to stand up for her. The law is not on her side and the court of public opinion is largely influenced by a culture of patriarchy and victim blaming.

  • #Equality; Let Your Life Be The Protest

    Conversations about gender equality had dominated the social media space (in Nigeria)this past week and everyone has been in a tizzy about it. As a Nigerian woman, raised in a largely patriarchal society, and seeing the injustice of unequal opportunities, you can understand how much i will push back against the boundaries and the system that creates those boundaries. As a Nigerian, christian woman however, things get a little tricky. Tricky because the injustice and inequality gets wrapped up in nice religious rhetoric and coated with wrongly interpreted scripture and poorly taught theology.

  • WOMAN; You Are ‘Ezer Kenegdo’!

    The Hebrew words used to describe woman as a helper in Genesis 2:20,  are ‘ezer kenegdo. The word ‘ezer means “helper” and is never used in the Old Testament to refer to an inferior or to a subordinate. In fact, the word is used in reference to God as our helper (Psalm 10:14; 30:10; 54:4; 70:5; 72:12; 121:2). Clearly God is not our subordinate. ‘Ezer is a sign of strength and power. Kenegdo is a Hebrew preposition and adverb meaning “corresponding to” or “face to face,” so it is best understood as meaning that Eve was a fitting partner for Adam, for she was like him. Eve was created as…

  • I Want An Egalitarian Marriage…

    I grew up exposed to conservative, christian marriages even though I was raised by a single mother. I was raised to aspire to that kind of marriage because it’s the “right and proper way”. Gender and relationship stereotypes where husbands lead and wives followed or  submit were entrenched in every lesson, moral instruction and youth counseling session. As I grew older and started looking closely, I saw  how unhappy most of  the married people around me were; the women struggling and sometimes resigned to playing their assigned gender roles and I knew something was wrong with that dynamic and I was sure I wanted none of it.

  • A Reminder To The Christian Feminist…

    As we are concerned about issues of equal opportunities and putting an end to patriarchy, sexism, emotional and physical abuse,  we should constantly check our hearts with Christ and put him at the center of all that we are and all we do. It’s all too easy to get carried away by the mainstream rhetoric and lose touch with our core values as Christians.  Remember love. Remember patience. Remember humility. Remember kindness. Remember that a strong Christian woman is one who stands courageous in faith and love. It’s not in how loudly you argue, its not in how hard you push yourself in front of everyone.  It’s about understanding your…

  • Thoughts About My Feminism….

    Isn’t it sad to see feminism reduced to cooking and house chore debates on social media? I think it’s even worse because young women “championing the cause” clearly have limited understanding of what Feminism is really about. And then out largely patriarchal and selectively ignorant society also doesn’t help. As a result, Feminism becomes probably one of the most abused & misunderstood concepts in Nigeria. Feminism for me, is all about EQUALITY. But there is a false understanding that when feminists are talking about equality they’re talking about being the same as men. But that is not it at all. Even the dumbest dummy knows that women are physiologically different…