• Young Woman, Here’s A Letter Form Your Sister @Judicaelle_

    I grew up alone. The things I learned about being a girl and then being a grown woman, I learned along the way, through my own mistakes and figuring life out on the journey. It’s been a long, bumpy and painful road and while I appreciate every step and every lesson, I wish I didn’t have to go through so much or make so many hurtful mistakes.  I wish I had someone to teach, guide or even advice me. That’s why when i stumbled on a Twitter thread by Judicaelle Irakoze, it felt like I was reading a letter from the sister I never had.  She spoke to the 20…

  • GUEST POST: I Am Every Woman – By @NellyLaoni

    In 1978, Chaka Khan debuted her first solo album ‘Chaka’, it included her major hit as solo artiste ‘I’m every woman’. It was later introduced to a much younger audience by Whitney Houston in 1992. The lyrics simply states that “every woman” is a man’s dream. She can do anything, feed him, have great sex with him, soothe his fears and protect him from danger. She affirms all of these without bragging because she’s confident in her magic. According to Chaka and Whitney, the “every woman” is a cook, courtesan, nurse, shaman and mother. This was nothing new. These women did not invent this ideal. They are only passing down…

  • #GuestPost – Why I Am “Age Queer” By @NellyLaoni

    The term ‘queer’ is never really associated with age. It is now firmly placed within the LGBTQI+ community. It is a term associated with identity. I would like to acknowledge the controversy surrounding this new term “age queer” and I apologize should this be considered offensive, but I hope that I can appropriate this for good. According to an article on Bustle.com by Lindsay Denniger “queerness isn’t a trend, it’s a human being’s identity in the current socio-political climate”. I agree. Urban dictionary defines “age queer” as used to describe persons who feel that their chronological age does not fit into the persona they wish to present to the world…

  • Is The Bible Really Infallible?

    Once you relinquish conviction that the Bible is *literally* God’s word, faith becomes a messier affair. It’s easier to simply believe that the Bible is a plain record of the divine, that it clearly and concisely states what Christians should believe. In a world that feels so chaotic, biblical infallibility can provide distinct comfort. But comfort and truth aren’t synonymous. The truth is that the biblical books were written by humans. They represent the fruits of people grappling with God, and what it means to be human, for centuries—in all the complexity those questions necessarily entail.

  • #GuestPost – Neglecting The Boy Endangers The Girl

    Before he was a rapist, woman beater, misogynist, patriarchy maniac, and the thing that keeps you awake at night, he was an innocent child. Born with no hate or disregard for women. There is no way he brought such evil from heaven. What happened? He was neglected and uneducated. Neglected by his parents, uncles, church, aunties and all the good institutions of the society responsible for nurturing him. They tell him to go find his way because he is a man. I never paid much or any attention to the international day of the girl child until last year. Women have had enough and were making a lot of justified noise on…

  • A Story About Time – By Eketi Edima Ette (@eketiette)

    Are you one of those people who’s looked back on 2017 and convinced yourself that you haven’t achieved anything? Worried about catching up with your mates who seem to have done much better? Let me tell you a story about time. A long time ago, back when I was about twelve or thirteen years old, my parents traveled to Uyo.  Before leaving, my mother asked me to prepare Edikang ikong soup so she and my father would eat when they returned. As soon as they were out the door, I commandeered my siblings to prepare all the soup ingredients, cover them up and leave them on the kitchen table.

  • Emotional Abuse; Spot The Signs & Run!

    So many women (and men) are in emotionally abusive relationships and they don’t even realize it. So many don’t know because they don’t realize the implications of what is being done to them. Emotional abuse leaves deeper scars than physical abuse. because your mind is attacked. In almost all cases of physical abuse, emotional abuse usually starts long before the physical assaults. In case you have not been paying attention, here are some signs of an emotionally abusive relationship. I’m addressing women here but it also applies to men too. So, read with understanding..

  • A Truly Heart Breaking Mother’s Day Story…

    When I was 5 years of age, I watched my mother get beat down by my father. It happened on multiple occasions, and one time I remember him beating her unconscious. I guess the beating was so bad that when she woke up, and stood back on her feet, she stumbled again and fell to the floor once again losing consciousness. Before she fell to the floor, she told my aunts who were there, “Get my son out of here.” as her voice trembled, her eyes shed tears, and finally she hit the floor. I got scared, and instead of my aunts running to take me out of the room,…

  • There’s No Such Thing As a Soul Mate!

    The philosophy of a “soul mate” has done far more harm than good in our society. First and foremost, it’s a concept that is rooted in ancient mythology. Story has it that the gods split human beings as a form of punishment for their pride. Since then, human beings have been on the search to find their “soul mate” in an attempt to reach completion once again. Ancient mythology declares that there is this unspoken knowledge—some sort of feeling a person experiences when they come face to face with their soul mate. It’s the idea that we’re half-full people waiting around for someone else to complete us. I don’t know…

  • The Church & Money Today… (Part 1)

    (As written by Lanre Afolayan) This topic is a grey area within the church today which often times generates a lot of controversy among church folks. Many people that concur to this line of thought are neither bold nor courageous to discuss it publicly because of the backlash it would receive. We however can not be mute or timid on matters that are crucial to God and to our faith simply because we don’t want to be persecuted. There is a priority of the Kingdom of God that we must begin to shove into our hearts even as Christians, which is the soul of man in eternity.

  • October 13th. Two Years Ago, I Tried To Kill Myself….

    I have shared about my personal struggle with depression on this blog before and one day i will probably share about how God healed me of BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). It’s a battle i don’t pray for anyone to have to fight. When I got this email from one of my blog readers, who is also a radio listener, i felt an emotion so great that a sob rose in my throat. The interesting thing is i had met her before and if she hadn’t shared her story i would never have guessed she’d gone through so much. At the end of the day, this just reminds me that we are…

  • Letter From J.S Park ; Dear Christian…

    My dear beloved friend: – No one really has it all together yet. We force so many self-pressuring parameters on our performance that most of us are neurotic, twitchy, over-productive busybodies with no real destination. In a culture where we celebrate only victory and are scared to talk about defeat: please don’t measure yourself on an impossible grading scale. Don’t measure your private moments with everyone else’s highlight reels.

  • Career Tips From Damola Johnson

    When companies advertise positions, they ask for only people with experience. Some ask for between 3 – 5 or more years of experience. So, how does a fresh graduate have any years of experience coming straight out from College? Rather than flipping through vacancies looking for the highest paying job which still won’t take you cos you don’t have the number of years of experience needed.