• GUEST POST: I Am Every Woman – By @NellyLaoni

    In 1978, Chaka Khan debuted her first solo album ‘Chaka’, it included her major hit as solo artiste ‘I’m every woman’. It was later introduced to a much younger audience by Whitney Houston in 1992. The lyrics simply states that “every woman” is a man’s dream. She can do anything, feed him, have great sex with him, soothe his fears and protect him from danger. She affirms all of these without bragging because she’s confident in her magic. According to Chaka and Whitney, the “every woman” is a cook, courtesan, nurse, shaman and mother. This was nothing new. These women did not invent this ideal. They are only passing down…

  • #GuestPost – Why I Am “Age Queer” By @NellyLaoni

    The term ‘queer’ is never really associated with age. It is now firmly placed within the LGBTQI+ community. It is a term associated with identity. I would like to acknowledge the controversy surrounding this new term “age queer” and I apologize should this be considered offensive, but I hope that I can appropriate this for good. According to an article on Bustle.com by Lindsay Denniger “queerness isn’t a trend, it’s a human being’s identity in the current socio-political climate”. I agree. Urban dictionary defines “age queer” as used to describe persons who feel that their chronological age does not fit into the persona they wish to present to the world…

  • Is The Bible Really Infallible?

    Once you relinquish conviction that the Bible is *literally* God’s word, faith becomes a messier affair. It’s easier to simply believe that the Bible is a plain record of the divine, that it clearly and concisely states what Christians should believe. In a world that feels so chaotic, biblical infallibility can provide distinct comfort. But comfort and truth aren’t synonymous. The truth is that the biblical books were written by humans. They represent the fruits of people grappling with God, and what it means to be human, for centuries—in all the complexity those questions necessarily entail.

  • #GuestPost – Neglecting The Boy Endangers The Girl

    Before he was a rapist, woman beater, misogynist, patriarchy maniac, and the thing that keeps you awake at night, he was an innocent child. Born with no hate or disregard for women. There is no way he brought such evil from heaven. What happened? He was neglected and uneducated. Neglected by his parents, uncles, church, aunties and all the good institutions of the society responsible for nurturing him. They tell him to go find his way because he is a man. I never paid much or any attention to the international day of the girl child until last year. Women have had enough and were making a lot of justified noise on…

  • A Story About Time – By Eketi Edima Ette (@eketiette)

    Are you one of those people who’s looked back on 2017 and convinced yourself that you haven’t achieved anything? Worried about catching up with your mates who seem to have done much better? Let me tell you a story about time. A long time ago, back when I was about twelve or thirteen years old, my parents traveled to Uyo.  Before leaving, my mother asked me to prepare Edikang ikong soup so she and my father would eat when they returned. As soon as they were out the door, I commandeered my siblings to prepare all the soup ingredients, cover them up and leave them on the kitchen table.

  • GUEST POST: Women Are Like God! By @Ms_Affy

    Women were created to assist God in creation.  They were hand crafted by God to perform specific functions pertaining to them and cannot be compared in any way to the compared to the masculine gender because they were also designed by God to perform uniquely as well. Women exist because of who they are (identity) and what they were created to do on earth (significance). They were designed to ‘birth’- bring people into existence and that’s what creation simply means strictusensu.

  • Finding Love From Within – Dayo Amusa

    I had grown up in a world that was built on pleasing others. I spent my life giving every ounce of love in my heart to the people around me without saving any piece for myself. I wasn’t the only one. Looking around at my close friends, I realized that none of us knew how to love ourselves. We preached about self-love and taking care of ourselves, but in practice, none of us did. I think the saddest part was that none of us even knew where to start. None of us knew how to ‘self-love,’ so we faked it.  We faked loving ourselves. Isn’t that just the craziest thing?We…

  • Big Potato or Small Potato?

    Potatoes come in different sizes, and sorting them could take several hours resulting in lots of work for farmers during harvest season, however, I read about a certain farmer who used a different approach. After harvesting the potatoes, the farmer would simply load them all on a truck and then take the roughest road to the market. Due to the bad state of the road, it was filled with lots of bumps, holes, and the entire journey itself wasn’t a pleasant one. Something however took place during that process. The small potatoes would fall to the bottom of the truck, while the big ones would rise to the top. No…

  • GUEST POST – Jesus Paid For His Sins Too! By Onyedika Nwoji

    Jesus didn’t only make a sacrifice for our sins, but also for His sins too! Shocking? I know! But just follow me closely so you don’t misunderstand me. A high priest is chosen by God to represent his people, offering their gifts to God and also SACRIFICES FOR THEIR SINS. He is gentle with ignorant and wayward people because he himself is weak. So he offers sacrifices not just for their sins, but his sins also (Hebrews 5:1-4, 7:27). Now we have an Eternal High Priest, Jesus Christ, who also understands our weaknesses, because He has faced all the temptations and sufferings we have faced in the flesh, yet He didn’t…

  • Fighting The Distortions – By Chude Jideonwo‏ (@Chude )

    There are many bible characters I don’t much like. If I had lived in their time, I wouldn’t sit down and have a drink with them. I would respect them, possibly even admire them. But I wouldn’t be friends with them. Like Isaiah, or Jeremiah; too angry, too bi-polar. Still conflicted about the Apostle Paul. The book of Romans is a seminal work on human frailty, but much of the rest is lacking in empathy. But Jesus. My God, Jesus!  It’s why it’s so important to me to fight back the distortions of his nature by fundamentalists. And it’s all there, in the Bible. In the words the gospels report.…

  • GUEST POST: Spirituality & Mental Reasoning – By Onyedika Nwoji

    Often times you hear that you don’t apply mental reasoning in spiritual matters. You just accept them the way they are and don’t try to overanalyze it. This is true, and I believe this…to an extent. In as much as I believe human reasoning can’t fully comprehend spiritual matters, I also believe that God didn’t give us our minds without a purpose. You really can’t separate the mind from spiritual matters. But often, people discard reasoning entirely to embrace a spiritual knowledge with little or no understanding of it. Our minds have been given to us for evaluation. Our minds naturally analyze things, including spiritual matters…Yes, I said it. If…

  • GUEST POST: ‘Clever Distractions’ – By Onyedika Nwoji

    Clever distractions are simply what they are…clever distractions! They are clever because they are subtle, sly, cunning, smart, etc. The funny thing about clever distractions are they don’t even look like distractions. In fact, most of them appear really good morally, and even spiritually. Yes! That’s the danger. One major clever distraction among believers is being BUSY! Busy doing God’s work, ministry, missions, church work & meetings, etc. A few weeks ago, I was listening to a rap song by Andy Mineo titled “Death of Me”, and every time I listen to it, these words from the song always hit me deep: “Jesus retreated to speak with His Father, I know that I…

  • Emotional Abuse; Spot The Signs & Run!

    So many women (and men) are in emotionally abusive relationships and they don’t even realize it. So many don’t know because they don’t realize the implications of what is being done to them. Emotional abuse leaves deeper scars than physical abuse. because your mind is attacked. In almost all cases of physical abuse, emotional abuse usually starts long before the physical assaults. In case you have not been paying attention, here are some signs of an emotionally abusive relationship. I’m addressing women here but it also applies to men too. So, read with understanding..

  • GUEST POST: Take That Risk! – By @MrOlumatiI

    Life is full of risks. We are either taking these risks or playing safe. Either way, we are left blinded to the possible outcomes of our risk or our safe play. I see this photo and I am drawn to all its variability. I am captivated by its beauty and artistry. The artistry that allow the woman make that pose with the semblance of a peahen conscious of its beauty and flaunting it under the watchful eyes of an admiring peacock. I am also careful to note the condition of the lady in the photo. She is pregnant and standing on a small ladder. That is indeed risky.

  • GUEST POST: Christian Music Biz; UNDERSTAND CULTURE, TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT!

    Every dispensation and time has a culture. Too many times generally as believers in the music business we are found depending on God when God is depending on us. God is depending on us because within us he has put the wisdom to know how to fix our challenges unless of cause we get the point where we are genuinely over whelmed. Genesis 14:14 “When Abram heard that his relative had been taken captive, he called out the 318 trained men born in his household and went in pursuit as far as Dan.” The human mind already possess incredible power to find solutions to her challenges, this is why tons…