• No you’re not ‘catching feelings’, you’re just horny

    When I was growing up, one of the lessons we learned in youth chapel was how to differentiate between love and lust. Of course the lesson was skewered from the beginning because it was more about warning us to avoid pre-marital sex than teaching us anything about understanding our bodies and how it worked. Sexual chemistry is an interesting subject. But because it is not a subject often discussed and taught to us while we were growing up as young women, it is less understood and has become this ‘thing’ we feel but hardly process properly So many hearts have  been broken and tears cried because of confusing sexual chemistry…

  • Chase your happiness; you deserve it

    Everytime I think about the movie; “The Pursuit of Happiness”, I am always struck and inspired by how the character Chris Gardner, (played by Will Smith) did everything he could to build the life he wanted. I watched him fight impossible odds, cried, felt his pain and broke into tears of joy with him when he finally got a breakthrough At the root of it all is the fact that Chris never lost focus. He kept going after what he knew he deserved; a good life, where he can provide food, shelter and comfort for his child. That for him, is happiness. And he went after it, relentlessly. What is…

  • Doreen On Loving Yourself: “Let honesty be a kind teacher & not a cruel one”

    It’s a lot easier to love yourself when you like yourself; When you like who you are & how you are. One of the greatest ways to start liking yourself if you already don’t, is to begin with honesty. There is such an appreciation you experience when you come clean to yourself. It may be a little awkward at first being that honest with yourself, but the more you are, the more you begin to see the importance in saying out loud your fears, hearing them sound so very human, which helps you realize the work you have to do. Don’t ignore doing the work. Doing the work on yourself…

  • If your plan this year includes getting on radio or starting your own podcast, you should register for The Radio Master Class

    Registration is NOW OPEN for the JANUARY 2021 session of The Radio Master Class If you’re looking to start your own podcast or thinking about a career on radio, this class is perfect for you. If you’re already on radio, it’s a great refresher course for content research, production and basic radio presentation Here are answers to the FAQs 😊 Classes open Saturday, 30th January 2021 1 hour Video classes for discussion and questions run every Sunday morning at 11am (for online students) Registered Students will receive study materials every week for independent study and course work. All students will receive a certificate at the end of the program BRMC…

  • Can you really ‘jinx’ something good by talking about it before it happens?

    Earlier in the day, I saw a post by former presidential aide Reno Omokri advising women against showing off their baby bumps or having baby showers.  According to him,  when women “flaunt” their baby bumps, they attract negative human spirits. While I deliberately ignore Reno’s blatant misogyny and often shared borderline delusional conspiracy theories, for the sake of this conversation, I want to explore this common sentiment I have heard from when I was a child. This idea that if something good is about to happen, like maybe a job, a new baby, a contract or even a new relationship, you’ll somehow ‘jinx’ it if you share the news before it actually…

  • If you’re starting a small business in 2021 and worried about your digital media needs, here’s my new year gift for you

    If you’re a small business owner, struggling to market your services and products online, and you don’t have the budget for video editors and graphic designers, i understand the struggle. I have been there and the road can be rough. As we begin a new year, I’ll like to share a list of a few useful android apps I use and have found to be helpful. To design animated intros to your promotional videos or make animated text videos, use SPARK POST Download here 👉🏾 https://t.co/5gfSJFSkT6 To watermark your pictures and videos, use this WATERMARK app. It allows you to either create your watermark on the app or import your…

  • Goodbye 2020; here’s my biggest lesson

    In a few hours, the curtain will be drawn up on the year 2020 and like millions of people all over the world, I can’t wait to bid it goodbye. I remember January 2020 like it was just yesterday; big dreams, expectations, plans and projections. It was going to be an incredible year, I was certain. Well, the year did turn out incredible. Not just in the way I thought or anticipated. I’m not going to recount all the things that happened in my life in the year 2020; partly because I have zero interest in reliving the experiences or the memories. No I have decided to move forward by…

  • Your Soulmate is not ‘out there’, you can stop looking now

    If I had one naira for every time I hear people talk about finding their soulmate, being with their soulmate or anything at all to do with their soulmate, I’ll be a rich woman indeed. If everyone supposedly has a soulmate; that one person we are destined to be with, you know, “the one”; what are the odds that you’ll ever find yours? According to healthcrackers, assuming your soulmate is set at birth, is roughly in the same age bracket, and the love is recognizable at first sight, mathematical estimates indicate that your chances of finding your soulmate is only 1 in 10,000 (0.010%). Let me break down why believing that you are destined to…

  • BRYMO Will Tug At Your Heartstrings On Libel; The EP

    I knew BRYMO’s Libel was coming. He had mentioned it several times and even though he hadn’t gone on record saying a lot, I had enough information to know it wasn’t a surprise project. But you know what? You’ll think you know what to expect from BRYMO and then he’ll come and spin you around and you’ll be clutching at your heart, wondering what had just happened. That’s Libel; the EP. Why did he call it an experimental project? You’ll have to ask him.

  • These Are The Days Of The Dark Passenger

    The first time I heard the phrase “The Dark Passenger”, it resonated with me. I connected. I connected because I can see it. A constant shadow, hovering in the periphery of my existence, sometimes quire invisible, other times loud and very present. A wave of dark swirling clouds It’s here. This dark riding companion I can’t seem to kick out. Believe me I’ve tried. I’m tired of talking about it because “think more positively,”  “be grateful,”  “seek greater spirituality” “Everyone feels down in the dumps sometimes.” and every other “helpful” prescriptions like that doesn’t exactly help. Maybe I don’t want any help. With each passing day, I can feel myself getting sucked…

  • SUFFERING AND SMILING: Nigerian Radio Broadcasters Live In Professional Dysfunction

    When I started my career in the broadcast media industry over a decade ago, it was with enthusiasm, bright eyed excitement and a conviction that I was finally on my destined path to greatness. I’m still as enthusiastic as before and definitely convinced that I’m exactly where I need to be, but the bright eyes and naivety has been replaced with a shrewd gaze at every so called “opportunity” in the industry. I am currently on a very necessary break from broadcasting and for the last few months, I’ve been trying to get my thoughts together to fully express my concerns about the cesspool of corruption, mismanagement and employee abuse…

  • Young Woman, Here’s A Letter Form Your Sister @Judicaelle_

    I grew up alone. The things I learned about being a girl and then being a grown woman, I learned along the way, through my own mistakes and figuring life out on the journey. It’s been a long, bumpy and painful road and while I appreciate every step and every lesson, I wish I didn’t have to go through so much or make so many hurtful mistakes.  I wish I had someone to teach, guide or even advice me. That’s why when i stumbled on a Twitter thread by Judicaelle Irakoze, it felt like I was reading a letter from the sister I never had.  She spoke to the 20…

  • LISTEN: The Nuances Of Helping Survivors of Intimate Partner Violence

    Intimate partner violence is one of the most common forms of violence against women and includes physical, sexual, and emotional abuse and controlling behaviours by an intimate partner. Intimate partner violence1 (IPV) occurs in all settings and among all socioeconomic, religious and cultural groups. IPV refers to any behaviour within an intimate relationship that causes physical, psychological or sexual harm to those in the relationship. While we work to help survivors leave the situation and environment of abuse, what happens in cases where abusers ask for help & their victims do not want to leave the relationship? Nigerian Broadcast Journalist, Nelly Kalu and I discuss this on my radio show.…

  • I Deserve To Talk Anyhow, Dress Anyhow And Live Anyhow

    I listened to an excerpt of Sandra Ezekwesili’s radio show where she was discussing Nigeria’s increased rate of sexual assault on women. A man called into the program to say that the reason why men rape women is that “they talk anyhow” when approached or propositioned by men. At that moment, my head spun and my chest tightened in outrage. But Sandra asked the question that burned through my mind. She said “If you as a man talk anyhow to a fellow man, do you expect to get raped?” You already know what the answer was.     You know why my chest tightened when I heard that man’s words?…

  • A Thin Line Between Fame And Infamy

      “Glory is like a circle in the water, which never ceaseth to enlarge itself, till, by broad spreading, it disperse to naught.” – Shakespeare  I have never been famous. Probably will never be. So I can’t possibly pretend to know exactly how famous people think or exactly what their realities actually are. That being said, I have seen, read about, interacted and worked with famous people and I do know that there’s something about being known and being adored and almost hated in equal measure by hundreds of thousands of people that affects the way you see the world, the way you see people and the way you see…