Welcome To The Horny 30s

One of the best things about being a 30plus woman is the sexual freedom  and the premium orgasms that come with it.

Now, there is no magic wand and an abracadabra spell that suddenly turns things around for you immediately you clock 30, (in fact, some of the changes will happen a few years in) so you need to understand that on some level, you’ll have to work on yourself to turn shit up.

That being said, there are certain changes that will occur because of your unique biology as a woman and you’ll learn quickly enough to enjoy it and take advantage of it.

University of Texas psychologist, David Buss wrote about a study that showed women in their 30s and early 40s are significantly more sexual than younger women.

Women ages 27 through 45 report not only having more sexual fantasies than women ages 18 through 26 but also having more sex, period. 

By contrast, men’s sexual interest and output, peaks in the teen years and then settles to a steady level for most of their lives.

So why does sex get better for women as we get into our 30s?

Apart from the fact that our hormones have a lot to do with it, psychologists have identified social factors that I definitely agree with because I have experienced them.

I can share that one of the reasons I’m having better sex now is that I’m more confident and less self-conscious. Confidence always makes for better sex. 

By the time you’re in your 30s, you’re more in tune with your body and your desires.

I had sex when I was younger, but I didn’t always have a good understanding of what I liked or why I liked it.

I also didn’t fully understand how my body worked — like the fact that my G-spot basically doesn’t exist unless I’m aroused or the fact that there are a gazillion number of ways I can climax without penetrative sex. I didn’t know all of that until I got older and  became more familiar and comfortable in my own body. I also stopped slut-shaming myself.

In your 30s, you’ll discover that knowing what turns you on makes a big difference in how you enjoy sex. You don’t have to put up with unsatisfying sex because you know how to get the job done your self or to coach your partner

It took me a while to figure out what I liked. With the confidence I gained, came better communication; meaning I can vocalize my needs right in the moment or outside the bedroom.

If things don’t work right, I can talk about it rather than go to sleep feeling weird.

I can talk about turn ons and turn offs, ask for what i want without guilt, and talk through what I’d like to try next. That for me, is what differentiates sex in your 30s.

There’s also an important factor; at 30 plus for most women, we’re pretty much comfortable with where we are in life and we know exactly what we want from whatever relationship we’re in; So there are very little to no hang ups about expectations and zero “what are we” questions.

It is my utmost wish for women to fully embrace their sexuality and be comfortable in it. To get used to taking their pleasure without apologies and to discover how magical their bodies truly are.

Welcome to the horny 30s.

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