Help @Chude Raise N10M to Build A Depression & Trauma Centre For Young People

I am almost ashamed to say this now because I had no excuse. My parents were not rich, but they were not
poor. They sent me to good schools.

They had a marriage that was difficult sometimes, but they stayed together because of me; it was a good marriage, and they never projected pain or trauma unto me. My life has had no abuse of any sort (not even verbal abuse by my mother), and I have been loved and validated by my parents every day of my life.

Yet even with all this reinforcement, when I left their protective arms and went into the world, it frightened
me. There was so much lack of love and warmth and good faith, and care, that I quickly learnt that I couldn’t
be open with my feelings, I couldn’t be vulnerable with my fear. I had to be well put together, perfect, else
someone would have a go at me.

I grew up in this mortal fear of being hurt, and of being myself.

And that often led me to unhappiness, and to anxiety and to clinical depression now and again. I was
depressed over broken relationships, over unwanted weight, over business rejection, over being broke, over
losing a pitch or a competition. I wrestled with inferiority and insecurity, even though I had no reason to. Just
because the world wasn’t a safe space, wasn’t a warm place.

Many of you reading this, you know what I am talking about. You know how you have (or hopefully, had) to
hide your true self, your true feelings, your fears and doubts, because you don’t feel anyone cares, or you
don’t want to be the ‘softie’ in a hard world. You had to learn to survive, rather than truly thrive.

These days I ask myself: How do people who were raped, who were abandoned, who were emotionally and
sexually abused, who were victims of divorce, who grew up in abject poverty, how did they survive the
world? How did they cope? How do they manage?

Ever since I started talking to my team about joy three years ago, began to teach others from 18 months
ago, and began to do this as my life’s work a few months ago, I have seen more things that have broken my
heart. So many are in so much emotional and mental pain, and they just have no one to talk to.

I ask people to send me their responses to my daily newsletter, The Daily Vulnerable (you can sign up now
on thedailyvulnerable.com) and I make sure to read them every week. The things I read about bullying, and
abuse, and hurt, and pain, and loss, and fear…it’s…People. Need. Help. People just need someone to talk
to, someone to listen, someone to say a kind word as they continue their journeys, someone that confirms
to them what they feel is normal, it’s human, and it’s alright.

And I know this, because I have the quantitative data as well as the stories from the people I meet every
day at our masterclasses, at my speaking events, on my social pages, in my email inbox – our communities,
our society, especially here in Nigeria, are too hostile, too negative, too harsh. People are suffering and they
have no one to turn to.

People are dealing with abuse (oh my goodness, is there even one young woman who hasn’t been
somewhat sexually abused by wretched men in Nigeria?), trauma, depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts
and they have nowhere to go.

I was shocked when my new friends at SheWritesWoman and Mentally Aware Nigeria told me they have
been trying unsuccessfully to raise money to build walk in centers and get toll-free lines that people can
reach out to without judgment, without being preached at, without being scolded.

Where does a young person walk into today if they are suffering depression or anxiety and want someone
to talk to?

Yeah, nowhere.

So I decided to put myself on the line, and raise this money from you, and other people like you who read
this. I could harass brand managers, or companies, or beat down the doors of rich friends to do this, and
avoid the burden of putting myself out there. But remember what I said about living bravely? Yes, putting
myself out there – where I may fail in raising the money, because this is not an urgent call for a person who
has cancer, for instance – is risky, but so what?

I want this money to be raised by the public. I want all of us together to raise this money for Mentally Aware
Nigeria and SheWritesWoman, so we can prove to ourselves that our humanity matters, that our emotions
matter, that our society can heal itself even if it takes us a while. The process of the public doing this
together is part of the idea. For us to be human, together.

Today is my birthday. And this is the only gift I really want. For us to raise a minimum of N10million to build
this center. The full accounts of this fundraising and how it is spent will be published online, so you can see
where your money goes.

Thank you for helping me do this.

May your days be filled with love and joy.

To donate, please click —> HERE  or pay into Joy
Incredible, 0053065417 EcoBank and please make clear that donation is for The Joy Hub

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