• I Used To Hate My Body

    One day I was on the beach with a friend and as we strolled down the ocean’s edge, we looked at other beach goers in bikinis and gossiped about everyone. Of course, we talked about what they wore and the various bodies on display. What I remember about that conversation was when at one point, she said to me “I wish I have your confidence to wear whatever I like”. I remember smiling and saying, it’s because i have literally stopped caring about not just what people think about my body, but what I think too. I smiled to myself because that confidence didn’t come cheap. See, I grew up…

  • How Lagos Theatre Festival 2021 delivered A Reckless Art Weekend

    The virtual community was saturated at the weekend when the largest performing arts festival in Nigeria and West Africa, Lagos Theatre Festival (LTF), held its 8th virtual edition. With its theme:‘RECKLESS ART’; an embodiment of an Out of Bounds movement and the belief that art should be created with reckless abandon and no limits, the festival was replete with inspiring and evocative art. The LTF, founded by the British Council in 2013 as part of its ambitions to foster exchange, collaboration, and strengthen relationships between Nigerian and British artists through the presentation of high quality Nigerian and British theatre, has so far, reached over 770 million people online so it…

  • Davido Was Right; Love Is Sweeter With Money

    Today’s social media argument is about women, love and money. (as usual). This tweet is the root of the argument: I’ve been seeing several ‘hot takes’ from (mostly) women twisting themselves into pretzels trying to prove that money is not usually a factor in who a woman chooses to be with, and I’m personally incensed at the dishonesty of it all. (I call it dishonesty because i don’t want to believe any woman old enough to independently date men in 2021 is naïve like that) Of course money is important. Of course money plays a major role. As much as we like to say and believe that if a woman…

  • Why I’m Happy That Marriages No Longer Last

    I’m very happy that marriages these days no longer last as long as they used to in the days of our parents and grandparents. A lot of marriages were (are) held together by the women. (They even preach about it with all that talk about a woman “keeping her home”) No one ever accuses a man of not being able to “keep his home”. But I digress. Back in those days, a lot of women were not financially independent and they depended on men for provision so they endured unhappy marriages and oftentimes traumatic conditions just to keep a roof over their heads and their children. Even when they had…

  • Welcome To The Horny 30s

    One of the best things about being a 30plus woman is the sexual freedom  and the premium orgasms that come with it. Now, there is no magic wand and an abracadabra spell that suddenly turns things around for you immediately you clock 30, (in fact, some of the changes will happen a few years in) so you need to understand that on some level, you’ll have to work on yourself to turn shit up. That being said, there are certain changes that will occur because of your unique biology as a woman and you’ll learn quickly enough to enjoy it and take advantage of it. University of Texas psychologist, David…

  • Nigerian Radio Presenters and The Payola Question

    Once again, the age-old payola question is being debated in the Nigerian Music and Media Industry. Payola; exchanging money for radio airplay. I shared my views about this in an article I wrote in 2013, when the subject came up on social media, with emerging artistes expressing pain and frustration at the unfair system designed to keep radio airplay for only artistes that can afford to plug their music or ones with major label backing. My views from 2013 has not changed; however, a lot has changed in the Industry since then and I have been around, seen and experienced things, talked to various players and I’ll be adding those…

  • About this obsessive fear of the naked woman

    The policing of women’s bodies has always been an issue all around the world. Women’s bodies and the relationship between women’s bodies and culture, customand honour, has been the foundation of violence against women for years Female sexuality and the policing of it continually leads to the shaming of women, the ostracising of women, and the mutilation of women’s bodies. Female genital mutilation, abortion laws, virginity testing, denial of access to birth control, forced abstinence are all ways women’s bodies are policed

  • Worried about being scammed by online vendors? Check out my list of trusted plugs for what you need

    Ecommerce has been around for a while now, and while it’s given people like me all kinds of convenience and flexibility in making purchases, it hasn’t completely erased my underlying trust issues. And I have good reasons to not be completely trusting too; especially when dealing with Nigerian retailers in Nigeria. Just go through social media timelines talking about vendors and you’ll read the horror stories. From failed deliveries, to damaged products, false advertising, horrible customer service to outright fraud. As someone who does over 70% of my shopping online (including food), over time, I have developed a personalized list of tried and trusted vendors and I believe i will…

  • Things are ‘Falling In Line’ for DavidB, With New Release For ‘These Crazy Times’

    After 2 and a half years of not releasing original music, DavidB is back giving us a timeless classic with ‘Fall In Line”. The up-tempo motivational record was released in December of 2020 and has been the anthem of many since then. DavidB taps into his gospel roots; taking us to church as the song progresses in 5 key changes, an abundance of riffs and runs, growls, and sermon-worthy adlibs. DavidB features singers: Solomon Akinsanya and Neusongs and the track ends with sincere vocals from his nephew and niece. “This song for me, musically, was just an honest expression of how I felt without over thinking how it fits in…

  • Skinfinity Esthetics Clinic opens bigger wellness spa in Lekki

    A good skin care routine is only as good as the products you use they say. But while good quality products can help your skin look better now as well as in the future, knowing where to get the products and the right professionals to consult is even more important. Skinfinity Esthetics Clinic in Lagos has been taking care of Nigerian women since 2019 and the brand has grown from skincare products retail to a full Esthetics clinic with licensed professionals to cater to a wide variety of skin types. This January, the clinic opened in it’s bigger space, to accommodate more clients and provide more treatment needs. This time,…

  • Dunsin Oyekan’s ‘The Gospel Of The Kingdom’ threatens to send me back to church

    I hardly review albums (especially not gospel music) but here are a few thoughts about Dunsin Oyekan’s ‘The Gospel Of The Kingdom’ album: This album has an Incredible spiritual element; You can’t ignore the feeling from the very first listen. From the very beginning, you can feel the worship from right inside you. (and no, it’s not the emotion that playing great chords bring. We used to call them church chords. Instrumentalists will know this) The Sound recording is top notch and the vocals are great. The background vocals make me want to be in a choir with them. Dunsin’s charismatic and powerful vocals also carry the songs well Church…

  • #NewMusicReveal: 9ine 9ine debuts with ‘If I’

    On my new music reveal this week is Shittu Sheu Folarin; also known as 9ine 9ine. He is one of Nigeria’s rising afro-pop talents. Growing up in Lagos, 9ine 9ine is influenced by a variety of sounds and the Afrobeats culture of the city. After a degree computer Science from Yabatech, 9ine 9ine clinched a recording deal with Florescence records and his fresh sound and vocals have already captured the attention of industry watchers and music fans in Nigeria and beyond His first single “IF I” dropped on Friday 15, 2021, and is a available for streaming across various music platforms. Listen here: www.bit.ly/9ine9ine

  • No you’re not ‘catching feelings’, you’re just horny

    When I was growing up, one of the lessons we learned in youth chapel was how to differentiate between love and lust. Of course the lesson was skewered from the beginning because it was more about warning us to avoid pre-marital sex than teaching us anything about understanding our bodies and how it worked. Sexual chemistry is an interesting subject. But because it is not a subject often discussed and taught to us while we were growing up as young women, it is less understood and has become this ‘thing’ we feel but hardly process properly So many hearts have  been broken and tears cried because of confusing sexual chemistry…

  • Chase your happiness; you deserve it

    Everytime I think about the movie; “The Pursuit of Happiness”, I am always struck and inspired by how the character Chris Gardner, (played by Will Smith) did everything he could to build the life he wanted. I watched him fight impossible odds, cried, felt his pain and broke into tears of joy with him when he finally got a breakthrough At the root of it all is the fact that Chris never lost focus. He kept going after what he knew he deserved; a good life, where he can provide food, shelter and comfort for his child. That for him, is happiness. And he went after it, relentlessly. What is…

  • Doreen On Loving Yourself: “Let honesty be a kind teacher & not a cruel one”

    It’s a lot easier to love yourself when you like yourself; When you like who you are & how you are. One of the greatest ways to start liking yourself if you already don’t, is to begin with honesty. There is such an appreciation you experience when you come clean to yourself. It may be a little awkward at first being that honest with yourself, but the more you are, the more you begin to see the importance in saying out loud your fears, hearing them sound so very human, which helps you realize the work you have to do. Don’t ignore doing the work. Doing the work on yourself…