• #FacebookChronicles: From Street To Corporate Begging; The Nigerian Hustle

    If you are middle-class like me, I am sure you receive a cry for financial assistance from a neighbor, or an old friend, or a colleague, or even an ex, at least once or twice a week. If you don’t receive these requests from people in your present or your past, I am sure you receive them from total strangers who walk up to you, look at the shine on your skin, decide it is from goat meat peppersoup and point-and-kill, not from the the blistering Abuja sun, then they conclude that you have enough to share. Clearly, there is an explosion of corporate street begging, and we respond in…

  • #NewFavorite: Hold Tight By Marx Okereke

    Marx is Back!  This is so exciting because it’s being a long time coming. Marx has been in the music and media business for quite some time, releasing an EP and then a debut album, then touring Europe and the United States. He is finally ready to dish out another helping of great music. Here’s his first serving off the menu: Listen and make sure you purchase! Connect with @marxokereke HERE  

  • Guest Post : Oga Pastor, Don’t Teach Me Nonsense!

    Women have been saddled with the responsibility of bearing the burden of the reckless actions of men for millennia and each time we make advancement in dismantling these damaging traditions, there’s a pastor or some other religious leader, waiting to undo all our progress with a single sermon. A couple of weeks ago, we saw a pastor stand before a congregation and blame women for men’s promiscuity. We saw him describe men as beings with uncontrollable sexual impulses who depend on women for reminders of self control. This point of view sadly held by a largely patriachial religious community, is very damaging for women.

  • Youth for Technology Foundation’s 3D Africa hosts Silicon Lagoon In Lagos

      Youth for Technology Foundation’s 3D Africa will host Silicon Lagoon, a three-day economic mission organized by startups​.be and Close​ the Gap to Lagos, Nigeria. From March 21st​ and 23rd​,​ the Silicon Lagoon mission will enable participants to discover one of the most thriving tech ecosystems in the world, learn more about business opportunities in Africa, meet local business leaders, pitch to local and international investors, and network with entrepreneurs. During the mission, Youth for Technology Foundation 3D Africa students and team members will participate in hand-on activities such as co-creation workshops at CC Hub and NG_Hub, an interactive “Pow-Wow” at the Tony Elumelu Foundation, immersion sessions at local startups like LifeBank and Blackbit…

  • Oluwaseun Ayodeji Osowobi has been named Commonwealth Young Person of the Year.

    Ayodeji Osowobi has been  helping thousands of sexual and domestic abuse victims through Stand To End Rape. She was presented with the award by Commonwealth Secretary-General Patricia Scotland at Marlborough House, the Commonwealth Secretariat’s London headquarters. She also received a prize of £5,000, which she will use to expand her activities in Nigeria. Oluwaseun, herself a survivor of sexual violence, set up the Stand to End Rape Initiative (STER) to provide support to women, men and young people who have experienced any form of gender-based abuse. She said: “This award reminds me that when young people don’t look away in the face of injustice, and say ‘no’ to cultural biases,…

  • Wanting The Sadness To Go

    I have thought about how to put this into words and there’s no other word than this one phrase: “It hurts”. It hurts like an open wound. When I found out I was pregnant in the early weeks of this year, It was the happiest and the scariest day of my life. But I was proud of myself. I felt like I had finally achieved something worth being proud of. (this might not make sense to you but for me, being a mother has been something I had wanted and waited for, for a long time) I felt like everything was finally working out. I felt blessed and I couldn’t…

  • Intimidation Is Nigerian.

    “Do you know who I am?” If you’re Nigerian, you’ve probably said this to someone or someone has said it to you at some point. Meant to intimidate, to silence and to generate deference to whatever unsavory and/or illegal act from the maker of the statement. That is the language of the Nigerian. Intimidation. We speak it, we understand it, we use it, we do not question it until we become the victims. And then, we turn around and do it to the next person. the bullied becoming the bully. We do it to each other. Someone owes you money and you pay a couple of policemen to arrest your…

  • I’m Snatching My Life Back

    Long time no read. While I can’t say my long absence has been deliberate, it turned out it was needed. I couldn’t help it anyway. Have you ever felt so overwhelmed with life in general? like things were happening so fast you couldn’t keep up? That’s what the past month or so, have felt like for me. As you know, I left my old job before Christmas and I moved into a new role somewhere else, less than a week later. It has been a roller coaster ever since. I have been physically, mentally and emotionally tired but I am on the good road to recovery. I have received good…

  • Can You Please Let Us Live? We’re Not Asking For Much

    When we talk about the rape culture in Nigeria and how the sexual assault of women is normalized, discussions become heated and victim blaming is rife. From being groped in the market to being groped at church, assaulted in public transport and raped in school, we can no longer deny that Nigerian women are not safe.

  • Questions For Your Mother..

    Sit down to an honest conversation with your mother. Ask her what living with your dad has been like over the years. Ask her what relationship with him felt like for her. Ask her if she ever had any regrets and what they were or are. Ask her if your father was or is everything she thought he would be. Ask her if she had to give up anything she wanted because she married your father. Ask what those things were. Ask her what her dreams and goals were when she was younger Bottom line, get to know your mother as a human being. Not just someone who took care…

  • This Thing About Forgiveness..

    Forgiveness cannot be forced. You can’t coerce or guilt people into forgiving. We all deal with pain differently and take time to process differently. I don’t advice people, preach or worse, guilt trip people with religious quotes into forgiving those who have wronged them. I used to do that. But not anymore. Why? Because I hate it when it’s done to me, and truth is, it doesn’t work. One more thing we need to understand about forgiveness is, choosing to let go of the pain doesn’t mean wanting to go back to the way things were. Some relationships are not meant to be repaired. Family, friends, lovers, whatever you were…

  • OPPORTUNITY! Free Film-Making Boot Camp by Lagos Film Academy

    The Lagos Film Academy, powered by the Global Philanthropy Alliance, presents the ‘Film for Life’ project! The project, now it is third edition, is offering $5,000 worth of funding and support to a team of young aspiring filmmakers who want to make their first film! The top three teams who apply will be invited to an all expenses paid film-making boot camp, and the winning team will receive the $5,000 of support to make a short film to encourage citizen involvement and integrity in the electoral processes for Nigeria’s 2019 general elections. Applications are now open until 19 November, 2018, to youth based in Lagos, Nigeria. Applicants must be between the ages of 18 and 30 who are interested in making their first film. You are to apply in teams of three (3)consisting of a…

  • GUEST POST: I Am Every Woman – By @NellyLaoni

    In 1978, Chaka Khan debuted her first solo album ‘Chaka’, it included her major hit as solo artiste ‘I’m every woman’. It was later introduced to a much younger audience by Whitney Houston in 1992. The lyrics simply states that “every woman” is a man’s dream. She can do anything, feed him, have great sex with him, soothe his fears and protect him from danger. She affirms all of these without bragging because she’s confident in her magic. According to Chaka and Whitney, the “every woman” is a cook, courtesan, nurse, shaman and mother. This was nothing new. These women did not invent this ideal. They are only passing down…

  • A little Thought About Feeling ‘Used’…

    For a long time, I had a problem with “being used.” You know that situation where people come to you for reasons that benefit them alone. From “picking your brain” for ideas, to asking you to use your skills and sometimes providing your intellectual property. Your time, energy, sometimes emotional labour is spent and when they’ve gotten what they wanted, it’s like you don’t exist. I used to feel bad about this. I don’t anymore. You see, I’ve come to view life from a different perspective. Someone once said “people only come to a tree that has fruits” Nobody gives a rat about an empty individual. So when I get…